Ye Kha AA Gaye Hum- Reel Life!

I see almost every guy somewhere saying "Kya Hoga Mera". There is no end to their worries. If sometimes (Galti Se) people don’t have anything to worry about, they find their own. Experts in creating complications! :) They love to be Unhappy, because our mind loves negativity. This is their favorite time pass. It became a fashion to have complications. Even their Relationship status also says "In a Complicated Relationship". :P

Every girl/boy around us is trying to impress someone and they spend almost one third of their life time thinking "wo mere baare me kya sochti hogi". And their life gets even more complicated when a different guy gets her. (Bechaara! Duniya hi lut gyi).

When a friend gets a new girlfriend or Job (What The fish! usme aisa kya hai) LOL! They start thinking "something is wrong with me". (No dude! Not something but everything is wrong with you).

 

Then a real drama begins. They come under depression and start living in the bubble of their own. And their FB status (By GOD!) . I really don't understand why they post it. (Do they want "GOD" to read it and wait for the miracle to happen :D). They're the most confused species on the earth.

When it comes to their own feelings and interest, people don't care about it. They always think "Log kya Kahenge" :D (One of the funniest lines I ever heard).

They're living just to impress 'others'. People are too busy in thinking about their past and future that they don't even realize what they're doing and who they are. People have forgotten the real purpose of their life.

Trust me guys nothing is wrong with you, the only thing is that you have lost the directions of your life. Actually you're confused with the "Real Life" & "Reel Life" funda and playing a character which doesn’t belong to you. It’s not real You.

Bollywood made you believe that a hero can do magic, and you want to be a hero (Krish Type). You want to impress girls/boys just like Ranbir and Deepika do in their films. Girls look more mired in Bollywood/FB than even guys.

Stop playing these fake characters and be "The Real You". Stop chasing girls/boys, start chasing your goal. And remember a girl/boy can never give you a beautiful career, but a beautiful career certainly gives you a "Jhakaas ladki/ladka" ;).

Stop thinking "Log kya kahenge". Kuch to Log kahenge, Logo ka kaam hai kehna! Give it a FU*K :). The easiest road to failure is to try and please everyone in life. We cannot please everyone around us.

Let's kill all the complications and make it simple. Our life is not that much complicated as it seems to be. We complicate it by thinking so many unnecessary things. Dimag ki dahi karte rehte h. Have fun! Every time you're able to find some humour in difficult situation, You Win!

Forget about your past, it leads you nowhere. Move on! Focus on your present because it is in your hands and it will make your future. Success won't come to you, Go Ahead and get it! A new world of hopes is waiting for you, go and explore it. You have to make your goal with unconscious mind. Show the world…who you are.

Yes! You Have The Power 

Tushaar Tyagi – Trainer, Motivator & Counsellor

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It's Time to Fly Higher

Some Unsaid Truths! So many things in ma Mind!

Its been so long when you thought about it, but never had the courage to do it. Now the time has come to make it happen. Time has come to fly higher.

This is the time to write your own story on the canvas of this world. The story which would tell the Success, The story which don't need any explanation.

It would change the way of thinking of masses, would change the mind of generations. Everything else will be 'as dead as a dodo'.

After all it is not just a story. You're gonna paint this sky with your own colors.

Yes "You have the Power". You are stronger than you think.

"April Showers bring May flowers".

Good Luck! :)

'Gin K Mili Hain Saasein Sabhi ko' ( Everyone got Limited no. Of Breathes)

Time never stops for anyone, So what are you waiting for?
Nobody knows even about very next second of life.
Believe me nobody will remember you, if you will not chase your dreams. Don't let this little world stop you.

Yes  "You Have the Power" :)

Ek Baar Jo Maine Commitment Kardi Fir to Mai Apne Aap ki Bhi nahi Sunta 

( Once Decided, then  I don't even listen to myself)

'The world remembers the Achiever'

Remember no one but 'You Can'
I am sure that luck plays a very large part. It's easy to give up when things are hard but Believe me you have to keep chasing your dreams and your goals. 'kya pata kab surprise mil jaaye Life me' ( You never know when you will have pleasant surprise in Life). Once you decided to do something, you should not look back, never regret it.
Keep your words. 'Raghukul Reet Sada Chali aayi, Praan Jaaye par Vachan na jaayi'.
Set your goals and stick to them. Rely more on Guts instinct than thick reports.
Success is more than Luck. You have to believe in yourself and make it happen. That way others also believe in you.

Never look back. you can't change the past. Try to learn from it.
whatever your dream is, Go for it.

Jindgi Challenges Bin Adhoori

(Without Challenges Life is incomplete)

Life without challenges is like Coffee without sugar. Do you really want to be a diabetic patient . A big Nooooo.

Everyone needs something to Aim for. You can call it a Challenge or you can call it a Goal, whatever you want. Its what makes us Human. It was challenges that took us from being caveman to reaching for the stars. :)

If you challenge yourself, you will grow.Your Life will change. Your outlook will be positive. Its not always easy to reach your goal but believe me thats not the reason to stop. :)

Say 'I can do it, I will keep on trying until I win'. Challenges can add colors to your life.
Always remember
If 'There's a disease, Cure it. If there's a wrong, Make it right. If there's record, Break it and If there's a mountain, Climb it.'

Tairna Tujhko Padega 'If you want Kinara'

( You have to swim, if you want shore)

Things become easy when you have faith in yourself. If you want milk don't sit on a stool in the middle of the field in the hope that cow will back up you. Catch the cow.

 Believe in the Hands that work. in the Brain that think and in the heart that love.

Some time you win and some time you lose. Be glad when you win . Don't have regrets when you loose. 
Be the captain of your Ship and master of your fate. :)

Good Luck!

Powerful Ways To Stay Confident During Uncertain Times

Life is full of surprises.

Sometimes these surprises are pleasant and other times we can’t help but feel a little anxious about what the future holds.
Which brings us to the importance of feeling confident, secure, and powerful — even in the face of uncertainty.
Because no matter who you are, what you do for a living, or where you live, you’re always going to face moments of uncertainty (unless you’re psychic and can tell the future, of course). But seriously, these moments of uncertainty might happen in any aspect of your life: at work, in business, or in your relationships, for instance.

And often, what differentiates super-successful and happy people from those who are ridden with anxiety and depression is the ability to sustain power and confidence, even in the face of uncertainty.

So here are 4 ways to stay confident, courageous, and happy, even when you’re not quite sure exactly how your desired projects – in love, work, and life – will play out in the short term:

1 – Stay Rationally Optimistic

When we humans think and feel rationally positive, our brains actually perform better. That’s because positive mental states produce higher levels of creativity, productivity, and performance.

Which means: if you’re ever unsure about a project’s progress or future outcome, staying rationally positive (not delusional and positive) might just foster the precise creative insight you need to ensure your ultimate success. Not to mention that it’s a total confidence booster in moments of uncertainty (and rightfully so)!

2 – Define Your Plans A, B, C, and D

Any time you’re going for a goal in life, it’s good to map out several potential paths to get there. This way you know you’ll somehow arrive at your desired point.

Many times having only one potential path toward a goal can leave us anxious or nervous about that path. After all, what if it doesn’t happen as expected?! But imagine how confident you’d feel if you knew that you had also mapped out several other paths toward that same outcome? Then you could put your ALL into plans A, B, C, and D…in full knowing that you’ll arrive.

3 – Realize Once And For All: All is Well :)

How many times has something happened that looked “bad” at the time and then later when you looked back on it you were thrilled that things turned out the way they did? It’s time to realize once and for all that this universe or world supports you and wants you to succeed!

The truth is that many times we simply don’t know the best way to achieve our desired outcomes, so we get angry or sad when things don’t work out the way we think they should…only to later realize that it all worked out for our own happiness, joy, success, and benefit. We just didn’t really know any better at the time…we didn’t realize we should be celebrating!

Now imagine how confident you’d feel in ‘uncertain moments’ if you just went with the flow because you ‘spiritually’ knew that everything was actually working in your favor…even if it didn’t seem entirely obvious to you at that particular moment in time…Now THAT’S freedom!

4 – Do Your Best – Don’t Stress The Rest

One of the best ways to stay confident in the face of uncertainty is simply to be secure in knowing that you’ve done your best and finally learn to let go of the things you can’t control.

One of the biggest mistakes so many people make is that they give it their all at work, in love, or in anything they think is important – and then they fully STRESS until they know for sure whether their end results will come through as they want them to. (Think school applications, business deals, you name it…it never ends).

Solution: when the ball is in your court play your best game, but once it’s in someone else’s court, be cool and stress-free. Refer to *3 above if you need to!

What are some ways you’ve stayed confident in the face of uncertainty? Do you have personal experiences that resonate with this post? Share in the comments below!

Good Luck!

Source : Cece Suwal and Mark Brener author

How To Motivate Yourself – Self Motivation

Staying motivated is a struggle — our drive is constantly assaulted by negative thoughts and anxiety about the future. Everyone faces doubt and depression. What separates the highly successful is the ability to keep moving forward. There is no simple solution for a lack of motivation. Even after beating it, the problem reappears at the first sign of failure. The key is understanding your thoughts and how they drive your emotions. By learning how to nurture motivating thoughts, neutralize negative ones, and focus on the task at hand, you can pull yourself out of a slump before it gains momentum.

Reasons We Lose Motivation

There are 3 primary reasons we lose motivation.

1. Lack of confidence – If you don’t believe you can succeed, what’s the point in trying?

2. Lack of focus – If you don’t know what you want, do you really want anything?

3. Lack of direction – If you don’t know what to do, how can you be motivated to do it?

How to Boost Confidence

The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When this happens to me, it’s usually because I’m focusing entirely on what I want and neglecting what I already have. When you only think about what you want, your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks, and personal weaknesses dominate your mind. You become jealous of your competitors and start making excuses for why you can’t succeed. In this state, you tend to make a bad impression, assume the worst about others, and lose self confidence.

The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in your life. Make a mental list of your strengths, past successes, and current advantages. We tend to take our strengths for granted and dwell on our failures. By making an effort to feel grateful, you’ll realize how competent and successful you already are. This will rejuvenate your confidence and get you motivated to build on your current success.

It might sound strange that repeating things you already know can improve your mindset, but it’s amazingly effective. The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively you think, the more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief. When you truly believe that you deserve success, your mind will generate ways to achieve it. The best way to bring success to yourself is to genuinely desire to create value for the rest of the world.

Developing Tangible Focus

The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often do you focus on what you don’t want, rather than on a concrete goal? We normally think in terms of fear. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid no one will respect me. I’m afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of thinking is that fear alone isn’t actionable. Instead of doing something about our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.

If you’re caught up in fear based thinking, the first step is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, you automatically define a set of actions. If you have a fear of poverty, create a plan to increase your income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a higher paying job, or developing a profitable website. The key is moving from an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps.

By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan for success. Instead of worrying about the future you start to do something about it. This is the first step in motivating yourself to take action. When know what you want, you become motivated to take action.

Developing Direction

The final piece in the motivational puzzle is direction. If focus means having an ultimate goal, direction is having a day-to-day strategy to achieve it. A lack of direction kills motivation because without an obvious next action we succumb to procrastination.

The key to finding direction is identifying the activities that lead to success. For every goal, there are activities that pay off and those that don’t. Make a list of all your activities and arrange them based on results. Then make a make an action plan that focuses on the activities that lead to big returns.

Keeping track of your most important tasks will direct your energy towards success. Without a constant reminder, it’s easy to waste entire days on filler activities.

When my motivation starts to wane, I regain direction by creating a plan that contains two positive actions. The first one should be a small task you’ve been meaning to do, while the second should be a long-term goal. I immediately do the smaller task. This creates positive momentum. After that I take the first step towards achieving the long-term goal. Doing this periodically is great for getting out of a slump, creating positive reinforcement, and getting long-term plans moving.

It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter periods of low energy, bad luck, and even the occasional failure. If you don’t discipline your mind, these minor speed bumps can turn into mental monsters. By being on guard against the top 3 motivation killers you can preserve your motivation and propel yourself to success.

Good Luck!

5 Tips on How to Have a Better Year

As the year comes to the half way point we set our sights on what we planned earlier in anticipation of a new and better year for our families and ourselves. The problem is that as we make these “New Year’s Resolutions,” not many come to pass. Why is it that we want something to happen and it doesn’t.

So let me give you some tips on how to have a better year:

(1) See yourself as the thing that you want. What you see in the present becomes your future. If you are thinking about good things, good things happen - if you are thinking bad things, bad things happen. Visualize what you want and keep that picture in your mind.

(2) Don’t be self-limiting. Let go of those thoughts that can hold you back. You might not even know what those thoughts are, so get a coach that can help. You know the kind of thoughts I am referring to, you might use the following phrases, filthy rich, and love of money is bad, I always learned this…. Look at your language and what you are saying.

(3) Throw away your prejudices and see how the world can look different, bigger and better. Need help? Get a coach.

(4) Keep that attitude positive - not “yahoo,” but “yes I can,” as opposed to “no I can’t”.

(5) Make choices based on what you want, and don’t be served up with what you get.

Henry Ford Said: "If you think you can, you might. If you think you can't, you won't"

JUST DO IT !

Believe in Goals  

It's never a bad thing to have a dream, but be practical about it. Don't sit daydreaming about things that are impos- sible. Set goals and then work out how to achieve them. Anything You want to do in life do well and not half-heartedly.
A journey of a thousand miles starts with that first step.

If you look ahead to the end, and all the weary miles between, with all the dangers you might face, you might never take that first step.

And whatever it is you want to achieve in life, if you don't make the effort. You won't reach your goal. So take the first step. There will be many challenges. You might get knocked back - but in the end, you will make it.

Good Luck!

Believe It Can Be Done
Have Goals
Live Life to Full
Never Give Up
Prepare Well
Have Faith in Yourself

I won't say no. I find more reasons to do things than not to do them. My motto really is: 'if you want to do it just do it!' I will never say,'I can't do this because I don't know how to.' I will give it a go. I won't let silly rules stop me. I will find a legal way around them.

I tell my friends,If you want to do it, just do it. I don't believe that that little world can stop you. If you don't have the right experience to reach your goal, look for another way in.


Keep your eyes open. Look and learn. You don't have to go to art school to be a fashion designer. Join a fashion company and push a broom. Work your way up.

Have Faith in Yourself :)